Do you care what people think about you?

"I don't care about what people think about me!"... I used to say

It's true that I don't care too much about that, but I made myself believe that I don't care at all. However, with more mindfulness, I realised that sometimes I too do care!

But WHY?
Why should it bother us if we are misunderstood, rejected, disliked or hated by people?


Who am I?
What is that "part of me" that is mine, which is accused?

When I am totally a conditioned being (subject to cause and effect):
- my body being conditioned,
- my feelings being conditioned,
- my perceptions being conditioned,
- my thoughts being conditioned,
- my consciousness being conditioned... There is NO REAL ME (I am constantly changing according to conditions).

When I cant be proud of:
- my beauty, which is not intrinsic but just conventional (animals wont find humans beautiful),
- my intelligence, which is the result of developing the mind and investigating,
- my wisdom, which is conditioned,
- my generosity, which is conditioned,
- my skills, which is conditioned,
- my creativity, which is conditioned,
- my attitude, which is conditioned,
- my determination, energy, focus, strength, intention, good will, moral values are all conditioned.. ,There is NO REAL ME (In reality, "I" am just a constantly changing process according to conditions)...


Who are THEY?
What is that "part of them" that is accusing? Their perceptions and thoughts!

When they are totally a conditioned being (subject to cause and effect):
- their perceptions being conditioned, every moment arising and passing away,
- their thoughts being conditioned, every moment arising and passing away,
- their consciousness being conditioned, every moment arising and passing away... There is NO REAL CONSISTENT THEM (In reality, "THEY" are just a constantly changing process, arising and passing away).

So, ultimately its a bunch of changing processes at both end!
Even this intellectual understanding and reminding myself of it that these processes are not-self (anatta) relieves me a bit, not to mention of the experiential understanding!